Essays
Essays I wrote on psychodynamic therapy, relationships, mental health, and spiritual growth.
On the abyssal darkness of existential loneliness, the temptation to fill it with distraction and future hope, and the freedom of meaning-making that waits on the other side of the void.
Read more →Reflections from five years as a psychotherapist in New York—on the city's high-density coexistence, the subtle vigilance between people, and the longing for steady, non-transactional care.
Read more →On how promiscuity can serve as psychological compensation for narcissistic injury—distinguishing grandiose, vulnerable, and aggressive responses, and examining the stalemate dynamics that keep such relationships sticky.
Read more →On how avoidant attachment forms through parental psychological control, how defensive independence becomes a maladaptive survival strategy, and the long path toward distinguishing genuine need from control.
Read more →On how early experiences of bullying shape one's understanding of power, good and evil, and love, and how these dynamics persist into adulthood.
Read more →On why some men cannot sustain love, how their unmastered aggression blocks the channel of care, and why certain women remain trapped in patterns of self-offering that ultimately become self-destruction.
Read more →On schizoid personality and its more painful variant with depressive features — the armor forged from early object relations, and the long journey of rebuilding trust with a good object.
Read more →On how people become entangled with the demon within and in relationships — through pleasing, becoming, fighting, or fleeing — and how to truly break free by turning toward your own light.
Read more →Aggression is a neutral primal energy. Whether it destroys us or empowers growth depends on our capacity to transmute it — and on the cultural pathways available for that transformation.
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